A little background. Came out of an unhappy marriage (I cheated alot because I was unhappy with the way I was being treated, naturally that made her more bitter). I know that is no excuse, but that is what happened. Unfortunately it is spilt milk now.
We had agreed to separate. She wanted the moral high ground though. She got a restraining order (family violence safety notice/intervention order. In the state of Victoria Australia that gives her everything in one hit without a burden of proof (technically there is a different burden of proof but in practice in my case she had none as she had sent me out to buy nappies while she feigned fear & got my parents to call the cops). Her accusations were verbal violence (yelling) & financial control. Needless to say neither are true. Police heavied me, threatened my life, I had no money at the time & acceded to the order without admission of guilt. She later invited me to contact her, then held me in breach. Got charged twice. Narrowly escaped jail.
Yes, before you ask, she is beautiful. Unfortunately she is also really mean.
This stuff is kind of background noise to the question though, but demonstrates a pattern.
Everytime I try to get access to my kids I get some new trick thrown at me.
When I got the order lifted off the kids (she had It extended to cover them using her five free, angry female advocacy lawyers), the first thing she did was tell the eldest I might abduct the kids to try to make the kids scared of me.
Even if you win in family court in Victoria and get a visitation order it is police policy not to enforce orders against mothers, ofcourse fathers get hammered if they trangress.
I met a woman overseas during this nightmare & figured I'd give my ex a year to cool off, but ofcourse my ex is still guns blazing. I moved overseas. I now have a baby due in five months with the new love interest.
I don't want to give up trying to see my kids, but at this stage I feel like returning to Australia would just introduce trauma into my new family's life.
I want my kids to know I am fighting for them, but I feel like apart from enforcing a skype/facetime order from overseas (which she might comply with) there is little I can do.
What are your thoughts as a person who went through parental alienation like this? Or as someone who has experience with this kind of situation.
The whole thing ties me up in knots. I can only imagine how it makes my kids feel.
Submitted June 04, 2018 at 01:16AM by SampleBasilisk https://ift.tt/2LkCk5w
