Hi there,
I am in a relationship with a musician. His band is not super big or anything but they are playing quite some gigs, and the venues start to get bigger. I like to go to the gigs and I usually go with him from the start. I love to help with anything, be it loading or unloading the van, setting up, selling merch, organizing stuff, taking pictures and videos for their social media etc., to support him in what he is doing and of course to feel useful and not just wait around. It's fine for me that way and I am not really the kind of girlfriend that goes to the front row, I am more happy to give the space to people that maybe get to know the band or something, and I usually look more for a good spot to film or take pictures.
Usually I would just tag along and that would be fine in any area of the venues. Now that the venues get bigger, they are sometimes more strict about being backstage. My boyfriend started to put me on the rider as travel crew so that I can be anywhere.
So far so good. The other members of the band have partners too and now that stuff is getting more strict, they do of course also want their partners to tag along when possible. They start to offer to help with the stuff too and ask to be put on the rider. But since the band is not super big, it's not like they need several people as a travel crew.
I don't know much about all of this and what is the professional and polite way to behave. I enjoy being helpful, but I also don't want to step up to the other partners and have a discussion on who is to be put on the rider and who not or what, I mean, it's not my band. I like to be able to go backstage because I can help there and also see the band and hang with them, since we usually have to wait around a lot, and of course the food and drinks are nice since we are often on the road all day and need to eat something. I know that the stuff that I do is helpfull to them (especially the organizing / selling merch part), but of course it's nothing where I would be irreplaceable if you told someone else what needs to be done.
So basically my question is what would be the most supportive and professional way to behave? Is there a common thing about this, am I overthinking or do you have any suggestions on how I could behave in this and towards the other partners without seeming like I am taking myself too seriously?
Submitted October 11, 2018 at 05:58PM by karmazooka https://ift.tt/2OYPMBK
