I was thinking about different ways to look at the phrases 'The world doesn't revolve around you' or 'Everything is not about you'. Firstly, I thought about how it could feel like when the world revolves around me. For example, I lose a game and I'm mad at the game [I want to be the best, I know I can be one - that's how I can feel good about myself and if there is a single piece of proof that I'm not the best, I start feeling like shit, as if I've lost something [thankfully this doesn't happen often]]. Or my PC crashes, I get mad at the computer [I was enjoying something or planning to enjoy, the thought itself already gives a good feeling and when the PC crashes, that good emotion is taken away by the computer [root cause lol], getting the feeling as if it were the computers' fault]. These both examples show how easy it is to be in my own bubble, where every interaction with anything changes the emotion as if I'm supposed to be getting better things in life [probably because of the shit and unfair things that happened in past experience] leading to letting emotions make decisions. So this is how I understand how it can feel like when everything is about me.
So, how does it feel like when the world doesn't revolve around me or everything is not about me? I'm going to take the same examples. I lose a game but this time, I'm upset [I still want to be the best, I know I can be the best and the loss still does make me feel like upset [I'm human after all] and that's fine, in fact, that's a good sign that I know what I want [to be the best at that game] so how do I be the best? I can't be the best if I think only about myself, how every single thing makes me feel. So, what about the game? How did I miss that shot? The distance was too huge, but next time I know that I should be closer]. My PC crashes, I get annoyed [I was still enjoying something or planning to enjoy, just the thought itself already gives a good feeling, that good emotion is still taken away, but this time I get annoyed, not mad. The computer is still to blame but it's not like it did it on purpose, it's just a program [a lot of numbers and letters]. So, this changes things, I'm no longer in my bubble, I reach for things outside my bubble. Every interaction with anything still changes my emotions but it just happened, I live and learn. Emotions are no longer making my decisions.
So the next point of view has a small tweak. 'The world does not revolve around you but sometimes it's okay when it does, with that, it does not revolve around everyone else but it can and does happen'. And 'Everything is not about you but some things are, also everything is not about everyone but some things are'. I lose a game, again, I'm upset [I still want to be the best, I know I can be one and the loss made me upset, however, I also think about others. Why did that player play like shit? He could've been lagging, maybe he was drunk or he gave someone else to play with his account. Not cool but he lost as well, surely he's more upset than happy] My PC crashes, I get annoyed [Enjoyed something or was planning to, the computer still took that away but I we know that the computer was actually doing its job, following what it was programmed to do]. So, I'm no longer in my bubble, I reach for other things and I also go to other peoples' bubbles, see how they're doing. Every single interaction no longer changes my emotions [sometimes they do, we're human anyway], I think about other peoples' emotions as well. What kind of decisions I could be making?
Submitted February 02, 2019 at 01:55AM by Healthmire http://bit.ly/2UzgfVg