Okay so I am at a college dorm and one of my best friends from high school texted me and said she was in the area and wondered if I wanted to grab a bite to eat. I wasn’t up to anything so I thought it would be a great idea. After I accepted was when she told me there were two of her friends with her, who I also went to high school with but didn’t know well. These girls were very nice and so pretty but a little too much to handle for me sometimes so I never really grew close to them in high school. Anyway, we all ate dinner together and then decided we could chill up at my dorm for a bit so they could get a chance to see it. Once we were up there, one of the girls who I didn’t know well began spilling drama about a woman who I didn’t know. I butted in, being slightly confused, and asked who the woman was that she was talking about. She explained that it was her brothers girlfriend before he died. Suddenly I remember that 7-8 months ago hearing that her brother had died to cancer. Immediately I felt anxious to express my sorrow to her and I said “I am so sorry for your loss”. After saying that, she scoffed at me and tears flooded up in her eyes and the other two girls ran to console her. I felt like they were all staring at me like I had said something monstrous, when I was only trying to sympathetic. I know death is a touchy subject, especially if it was her brother, so she definitely is going through a lot and I believe her feelings are justified. However, what I want to know, is saying “I’m sorry for your loss” to someone you barely know commonly considered to be okay? I would like to know so I can better myself in a future situation
Submitted March 09, 2019 at 03:53AM by maciethewise https://ift.tt/2VJRRkt
