I'm a freshman studying Clinical Neuroscience and Pre-Med and I'm extremely intent on going to medical school [not sure if it helps discussion, but I have a feeling that it might be relevant]. I moved into my dorm at the start of this past week. My roommate moved in a few days later.
I started looking for a roommate at the start of the quarantine on the Class of 2024 Facebook page for my college. My roommate was the one who reached out to me. We communicated with each other for about 2-3 months on Snapchat, FaceTime, and over text. I eventually asked him if he wanted to be roommates and he was cool with it. We have similar interests, hobbies, political views, etc. We also grew up in the same region. We also happen to be both STEM majors [once again, not sure if it helps the discussion, but I thought it might be relevant]; he is majoring in Wildlife Conservation.
Bit of background...My personality tends to fluctuate between the INFJ, ENFJ, and ENTJ personality types which usually depends on my mood or current thoughts. I'm the kind of person who likes to be very organized, structured, definitive, and determinate, etc. I don't have much of a liking for wishy-washy people. I'm a huge science nerd and I love having high-energy, intellectual, debate, and Socratic seminar-like discussions with people. I might not agree with them, but it is very informative for me. I really care about issues I am interested in or have experience in and, as a result, I can be very overpassionate and overzealous. I don't care for facades; I like to get to know people as they are and have an intimate [not romantically speaking] relationships. I like to frequently converse with my friends, so I'm not anti-social. I'm not much of a party person, but I do like having fun with people doing stupid antics, staying physically active, etc. I do tend to overthink and sometimes worry about what people think of me but, I pretty much always do my own thing. I am frequently criticized by my friends and parents for being harshly practical and realistic, overplanning, emotionally turbulent, etc [weaknesses associated with the aforementioned personality types]. On the other hand, I can't really pinpoint my roommate's personality. What I can tell is that he is easy-going and laid back...VERY easy-going and laid back.
So on the first day of my roommate and I living together, we got into a discussion about Microsoft vs. Apple with me arguing the pro-Microsoft side. After that conversation, I noticed my roommate felt uneasy. He was very quiet, took a nap, and just wouldn't really communicate with me. It continued to the next day until I finally asked him as to what happened. He told me that he "gets very stressed easily" and that he feels like the discussions between us are like "him being lectured and less of a conversation". He promptly left the room after. I felt quite upset at myself for being described like this so I contemplated this for a good 2 hours and I do admit, I came on in the discussion a bit aggressively, but nothing meant to attack him or his beliefs. I apologized to him the next night and he said that "it's not my fault" but appreciates the apology.
Ever since then, our interactions have been near radio silent. Although I tell him, he doesn't tell me where he is going, what he is doing, etc. In fact, he enters the room periodically for a few minutes and then leaves for a few hours. I have NO idea whatsoever of what is going on and I would really appreciate any thoughts, suggestions, advice, words of wisdom, etc. After all, I am going to be living with him for several months and I don't want to have a bad relationship with him.
TLDR: Roommate and I have similar hobbies, interests, and backgrounds but we have barely spoken to each other in the last three days even though it has been only a few days into college.
Submitted August 23, 2020 at 04:56AM by TwiningLeek881 https://ift.tt/3hlP10n