My husband has made friends with a female colleague at his workplace. They met at the start of the year and they became friends really quickly. He's always tended to get on with women better than men.
I'm disabled so I'm not able to do outdoorsy type things with him, so he plans day trips with his female friend. She asks him for relationship advice (though she is single rn) and they do movie nights together and help each other out. He really enjoys spending time with her and she seems perfectly pleasant and often asks me if I want to hang out with her. She's a very social media focused person whereas my husband and I are not, so there are always lots of pics of them together.
Whenever he's away, my friends and family make comments about how "weird" it is for him to be spending time with another woman. My friends cant seem to understand why I "allow" him to be friends with her or why she would invite him over because it's "weird". I always feel I'm being mocked for not being so jealous.
I have male friends - and lots of them. I invite them over and hang out with them when my husband is away because I don't have many female friends, but no one seems to bat an eye when I do it. I regularly go out to dinner without him, but no one seems to see this as an issue.
I trust him totally and I'm not the sort of person that says "you cant speak to her". He sends me pictures, texts me and video calls me sometimes when they're together. If he wanted to cheat on me with her or anyone else, me saying "you cant see her" would be hardly likely to stop it. If he wants to stray, he will. I dont believe you can really stop someone if they want to stray. Weve been together for 6 years and are married - and we still love each other bunches.
I've talked to him about it and he says it's just friendship between them and if he ever thought something more serious was happening (for either party), he would back straight off. He also said if I were to ask him, he would stop seeing her.
I feel comfortable with the situation but everyone else seems to think I should be worried. Should I be?
Submitted September 15, 2020 at 05:07AM by rocketdoddy https://ift.tt/2FxnUBE