I will try to keep this a brief as possible..
Back in early July, I [24f] matched with J [27m] on bumble. It turned out, my best friend is marrying his cousin.. so we had seen each other before but never spoke. Over the course of 6-7 weeks, we were texting 24/7, very flirtatious and even making plans for things months away. I very quickly developed a calm feeling of like “oh there you are.. I’ve been waiting for you” like I had known him for years. He became a very important person in my life. Fast forward to mid August, we were finally going on a date (busy schedules). We spent 5 hours on a blanket in a field, talking and looking at stars — he had known this was my idea of the perfect first day and even brought my favorite snack. He got very distant over the next few days and when I asked what was up, he basically said he wasn’t ready for a relationship. His previous relationship ended in April 2018, it was very messy. We didn’t really talk for about a week and a half, then slowly everything went right back to the way it was before, flirting, constant communication, risky snapchats. And it stayed the exact same until the end of November. After talking all day every day for months, he was a bit distant again and said we didn’t really need to talk as much.. of course, this hurt as over the last months, my feelings are only getting stronger and stronger but still “just friends”. At the beginning of December, I made the decision to cut ties with him all together. The situation became unfair to both of us. I deleted him off snapchat, Facebook, and unfollowed on Instagram. he of course still had my phone number, but chose not to reach out. Fast forward to early January, it was his birthday. I reached out and said happy birthday and that I hoped he was doing well. He was very surprised by this and made an effort to talk to me over the next few weeks and things weren’t quite back to normal but they were comfortable. At the end of January, when I would try to talk to him, he couldn’t be bothered. He was very curt with me.. again, I asked what was up but this time he said it was nothing. It turns out, he had met someone new. Which is good for him, I’m very glad he’s happy.. I care about him enough to really want him to be happy. I guess I just thought it would be with me after months of waiting. I guess my question here is, was I reading too much into the situation? Should I not have waited for him? I guess I just want an unbiased opinion on the situation.
Submitted March 04, 2019 at 09:54AM by ellie729 https://ift.tt/2BXbuhF
